Randoms

I sit there, on facebook trying to figure out how I know this person. I soon give up, accept and then post on their wall asking if I knew them.
'LOL, naaaaw, random add, hru ?'

My gosh, I hate chatspeak. But that isn' t the problem, the people who add randoms though, or at least sit there searching for randoms, if not myspace, facebook, the forgotten bebo, or even here on my blog, THEY ARE ANNOYING!

Let us start with a friend of mine. No one likes him, yet he seems to command a great number of friends, well at least according to his facebook, which he frequently reminds me of. I always thought he was just boasting as usual, until the figures started to show. He was close to my number, which is surprising for a guy that no one really likes, but acknowledges his existence. I go to his facebook to post on his wall about it, wondering why, when all of a sudden a pretty girl's picture catches my eye. Now this guy, is not the sharpest tool in the shed, or the prettiest, but he still knows a pretty girl when he sees one, as do I. I sit there and wonder how he managed to befriend her at all, when I see he has replied to her post. Instead of reading her post, I decided to facebook stalk his, seeing as I had nothing better to do than a shitload of quizzes, go find something to do.
'haha, no just a random add, that cool ?' - his reply.
I know his secret now. I feel betrayed that he would boast to me about how much better he was than me, which I could accept if he knew all these people. But it seems he has been, for at least the last few weeks, adding random girls.
I then proceeded to learn that he webcammed with a friend of mine's cousin and proceeded to strip infront of her, which was funny enough, if she didn't record it and send it around. Needless to say, he has returned to his position at the bottom of the social foodchain.

First, lets establish what a random is:
A person you have not met in person before, being a person you have only communicated with over the internet.

A random 'adder' (not the snake):
A person who frequently adds random people over social networking sites.

Now, the randoms I accept, and will converse with irregularly:

• Friends of friends, who want to get to know me/you/person, because of the similar acquaintance.
• If they have so many mutual friends with me, that they could probably feign knowing me.
• Those people you can't remember, but they swear they know you from primary school ? but I guess they aren't randoms then... but still, well I guess we can fit them in.
• And as all guys will accept a hot girl if she adds first.
• I forget I added them.
  

These are just some examples of the ones I accept.

Now onto some of the reasons why people add randoms.

• They have no friends
• They are desperate to meet girls/guys (RANDOM ADDING CAN GO BOTH WAYS)
  
• They are trying to boast numbers in friends
• Desperate

Now, this is all fine and all, as long as randoms don't talk to me, and after a good week or so, I quietly delete them, if I remember. But when randoms talk to me, as in PROPER randoms, the ones you have no idea who they are, and vice versa, it gets annoying.
Firstly, I am for meeting people in person before stabilizing a good internet relationship with them. This allows them to get a first impression of me, and develop their opinion from there. And don't lie, everyone judges initially.
Through the internet however, if the person is a proper random, and doesn't even have any knowledge of me/you/person, then they can be extraordinarily judgmental, as well as basically looking like an idiot.

Example: Friend got spammed by a random, who thought she was hot, when in reality, her pictures flatter her true beauty... and by this I mean she wasn't very nice.

All these things contribute to adding randoms, but why is it annoying ?

Well, simply, some people enjoy it, most don't. I am writing from the 'most' point of view. People can be deceptive through the internet, and since first impressions are usually important for friendships, through the use of the computer screen and not face-to-face, personalities and such can be altered. Also, who wants a random / creep roaming around on their profiles ?